The day after the storm is beautiful, clear cold, and white. So white. We got about 8″ or 9″ of snow, so we got a little more than they expected. Just a few miles south of us they got over a foot. Grateful not to have to deal with that much snow.
My son will do most of the snow blowing when he gets up, but I’m going to clear enough to get my car out of the driveway because I had some plans with a friend and want to leave before noon, lol. I heard him up at about 3 AM, I’m guessing he won’t be up til 11 or so.
It was a quiet night at home. I talked on the phone with a lot of people yesterday and last night. I made a necklace for my friend who retiring on Friday. She and I have worked together for 11 years, she is my best friend at work. We tell each other our secrets, I will miss her.
I’m friends with the other women, but not close. Two of the other women are the kind who love to be in the know, and can’t hold anything in confidence unless you say “don’t tell anyone” which I don’t often do. For instance, one of them decided that when my mother died she would take it upon herself to tell my boss, “so you wouldn’t have to deal with it.” I didn’t get mad at her, because she told me in a call where she was offering her condolences, but I was furious silently. It was not her business to tell him. It was mine to tell when I was ready. The other woman, one day when I had a lunch date, like a second date with someone, shouts to me loudly across the room, “OH are you going on a date Deb?” so everyone could hear. I spoke to her later, and said, “just because you know something about me, please don’t assume that I want everyone to know, ok?”
There is one more woman, who doesn’t feel it’s necessary to talk to everyone about everyone else, so we get along fine, but don’t have a ton in common. So, I will miss my friend who never tells my secrets to anyone, nor I hers. What Brene Brown calls “the Vault”.
The good thing is, I will follow in her footsteps hopefully within 6 or 8 months. So looking forward to that.
Well, off to go deal with the snow.
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I understand the “collective friendship thing” but there’s a saying…”if somebody doesn’t add something to you life, they don’t need to be in your life.” Not keeping confidences (I call that a form of betrayal) is something I don’t tolerate.
Exactly. Since it is a work relationship, I can’t avoid them, but I just don’t talk to them. I will miss my friend. And blog more, lol.