Haiku No. 471: Crossing The Moon



Silvery moon slides

Shadows grow long in the glow

Spirits cross the veil


By Deborah E Dayen

Picture from Google Images


Sound Healing Update and Other Stuff


Good Vibrations Sound Healing Instruments

We named our sound healing group. We aGood Vibrations Sound Healing. We have our first paying gig next Tuesday, the 9th, at a yoga studio close to my home. We played there for a short free session during their summer solstice ceremony, just to give people a chance to hear what we are about. It was very well received.

I’ve made us a FB page for Good Vibrations. https://www.facebook.com/Good-Vibrations-Sound-Healing-2198505450267912/?modal=admin_todo_tour is a link to it. I’d be honored if you took a look, and even “liked” the page.

We are very excited about this gig. We will be playing there twice a month for at least the next few months.

Other than preparing for this first sound healing, which means lots of practice together, Dan and I have been out in the boat for a day anchored off of the beach at a little island that is a nature preserve, called Shell Key. We also had to spend a morning cleaning up my yard after a violent storm the other day which took down tons of limbs, palm fronds and part of my fence. Now I need to find out if my homeowner’s insurance will kick in anything for the fence. I’m guessing it won’t, but can’t hurt to find out.

Today we took his mother’s hearing aid to be fixed and while we were waiting I asked them to check my insurance (Part B Medicare) and see if they give anything towards hearing aids. I was pleasantly surprised to find out they do, $500 per ear. It’s not a lot, but it’s a nice chunk. I have a significant hearing loss in one ear. I’ve had it for decades, caused by otosclerosis, or bony growths on the eardrum. It can be corrected surgically too, so I may go that route too. But I am sick of having to blast the TV and try to cup my left ear to hear people talk, especially in a crowd. So, gonna see what I can do to get it fixed. I also have cataracts that need to get removed. UGH. I feel my age when I think about this stuff.

We are also still trying to decide if we should try to add on to my house, or sell both our houses and buy another jointly. My house is so old, 92 years, and if we are going to stay there, we have a lot of work to do before we could put on an addition. Thinking we will just fix the stuff that really needs fixing and then sell it. We will sell Dan’s also, his is a condo, and buy a house that’s a bit larger than my tiny house (900 sq. ft.) I still can’t believe how many houses down here are under 1000 feet, and the lots under 5000 sq. ft. Land is really at a premium in Florida, it seems.

It’s been monstrously hot here, over 90° every day with heat indexes of over 100°. We are at that time of year when we often take 2 showers a day, and stay inside all afternoon. It’s just crazy hot. We are trying to plan a trip to Denver the first week of August. Also planning to go to CT in September for a wedding, but we aren’t quite sure we want to spend the money. Plane fare, hotel room for the wedding, gifts, additional spending money for dinners etc. Not sure we want to spend that much even though I’d love to go.

Well, all is well for the time being. Hope it’s all well with all of you too. Love and light to all.

From Symbiosis to Synergy

I wait for you under cover of darkness
The sheet slides over me
Cool against my skin.

Magic begins as you arrive
Wrapping me in your arms
Whispering your secrets in my ears

Secrets of long ago
Secrets of the moment
We share the muted tones

We become more than the sum of our parts
Growing together
We create something new

Separation is in tiny degrees
We are never out of reach for the other.
Out of symbiosis grew synergy.


By Deborah E. Dayen

SoCS: Social, or Not?

The SoCS (Stream of Consciousness Satiurday)

My first thought with this prompt was social media. I use it quite a bit. I have my personal page, a jewelry page for Sundogs Designs, and another page for Living Like Water. My personal page is social, and kind of fun. Sundogs Designs is the least \active, though from time to time I post a few things on there. Usually unique gems, and listings of things I have just made. Living Like Water is really a spiritual page, meant to complement this blog. But since I don’t link them, meaning I don’t post my blogs on my FB page.

There are other social media platforms like Twitter and Instagram and Snapchat. Twitter I have an account on, which I’ve posted on maybe twice. Same for Instagram. I am sundoggirl5592, but have only posted twice, and those were both for my jewelry. I made a new page recently, in addition to sundoggirl5592, called Good Vibrations Sound Healing. It was murder trying to figure out how to have a new page under my personal account. I think I accomplished it after about 2 hours, but I’m not sure and haven’t had the stamina to check to see if I actually did it.

It’s tiring at this age. I am not fluent in social media, but I do realize it is necessary. Good Vibrations Sound Healing is the page for our sound healing group made up of me, Dan, and my friend Lynn. We actually got a regular “gig” twice a month at a new yoga studio in town, about a block from my house. We are performing there on July 9. I will link all the gigs we get to my personal FB page. I’ll do it to the others if I figure out how, lol. This is a paid gig, we are going to split the take with the studio owner. I’ve been busy making flyers and pass-out pieces for it. If the first one goes well, we will make it a regularly scheduled event, 2nd and 4th Tuesday night of every month.

I am pretty social, though not overly so. I came here to Florida with the knowledge and goal of making a new circle of friends to take the space of the circle I left in CT. I am still close with most of the people who were close friends up there. I miss them. Dan and I are going back in September for a wedding. I’m looking forward to it because I know I’ll catch up with a lot of people that I might otherwise not see, friends who will be at the wedding. Dan is such a great guy to go with me. He’s a great guy for a lot of reasons, but the fact that twice he has agreed to go up north with me to hang out for a week or two with people he doesn’t know is amazing.

Social….I have known others who are anti-social. People who protected themselves from others by isolating themselves. Only a few friends, if any. Lying to people who cared about them, thinking they needed protection from even those people, not trusting anyone. It’s so odd, to me. Lying to people who love you, because of some egoic idea that no one really loves you. So of course, it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy, that if you don’t let anyone in, by lying and playing games, and isolating yourself, you find yourself alone, which these people then use as an excuse why they are alone. Because when people lie to you, you tend to back off from them, and stay away, knowing after a while that they bring only ugliness and toxicity to your life.


I guess if you want to be social, that generally you have to be truthful with others, right? At least? I mean, you can try making up stories, telling great yarns, devising elaborate ruses, but eventually the truth will out. It always does. I say truth, at least. Because truth alone will not make you friends. It may make you social, but friendship is gained through trust, through caring, through kindness, through being there. It’s a lot more than just being social. Being able to carry a conversation with someone at a cocktail party over the hor d’oeuvres and a drink is being social, but if you can’t let someone into your truth then social is all you’ll ever be.

Well, I didn’t expect this stream of consciousness to go here, but here we are. I guess the take away is that social media is just social, but if you can begin a real conversation because of social media, who knows, you may make a friend.

Or not. Not everyone will want to be your friend, you won’t want to be everyone’s friend. But at least you won’t be a fake. Or a liar, or a cheat. Or maybe just alone.

Love and light to all.


SoCS is hosted by www.lindaghill.com Please visit her site for all the rules.

A Little Updating

I did a little updating on this site. On my about page, I have had the same thing up for 6 years. It was about the past, and the reasons I started this blog. I’d been planning to publish a book about the experience of leaving and then divorcing an abusive, narcissistic, sociopathic and somewhat alcoholic man after 32 years of marriage.

The thing is, life has gone on. I am in a far place from there now. I wrote the book, saved it to a thumb drive and there it will stay. I’m not so keen on publishing it now. New information changes things. It did me a world of good to write it, but I don’t need to add anything to the misery he has and is putting himself through.

The updating I did was to let go of all the pain and misery associated with my marriage of 32 years, and just look forward. I’m still Learning to Live Like Water, every day, in every way I can. So what I posted on my “about” page is Chapter 78 from the Tao Te Ching. And that’s all. I think it describes very well the focus of my blog and my life. I’ll post it here so no one has to go looking for my page.

Tao Te Ching – Chapter 78

The Taoist Classic by Lao Tzu

Nothing in the world is softer and weaker than water.

Yet, to attack the hard and strong,

Nothing surpasses it.

Nothing can take its place.
The weak overcomes the strong.

The soft overcomes the hard.

Everybody in the world knows this,

Still nobody makes use of it.
Therefore the sage says:

To bear the country’s disgrace

Is to rule the shrines of soil and grain.

To bear the country’s misfortunes

Is to be the king of the world.

True words seem false.

Love and light to everyone, even if you don’t think you deserve it. 🙂

A Day in My Life

The other night, at an open mic, we were trying to remember the words to the Beatle’s song “A Day in the Life.”  So, the thought stayed with me since, and today I had one of those days of having lots on my “to do” list.   Dan started listing all the stuff I’d done by the end of the day, and it sounded like a poem to me, so add writing a poem (free verse, no rhymes) about it to the end of the list.


“Got up.

Got outta bed.

Dragged a comb across my head”

Made coffee.

Ate some fruit.

(Took my meds…..)

Cleaned the kitchen

Cleaned the living room


Cleaned the toilet.


Got dressed and washed my face.

Brushed my teeth and combed my hair.


Ran to the drugstore

To get a gift card for Amazon

To send to my sister

For her birthday next week.

(Today is my mother’s birthday.

She would have been 98.)

Drove 10 miles to Trader Joes.

I needed ciabatta bread

For my friend who was coming over

For our regularly scheduled gab session.

As I walked into the house

I kissed my man goodbye,

As he left to go play Texas Hold ‘Em.

While I gabbed.

I sat down in front of the gong

And played for a bit.

I’m learning how to get different sounds out of it.

It’s really cool.

My BFF down here came over

She brought Josh Cabernet Sauvignon

It’s my favorite cab.

Heated up the ciabatta bread

Made dipping oil.

We gabbed for 2 hours.

It was lovely.

We solved the worlds problems

And our own.

She left after a couple hours.

I made blueberry muffins

From scratch,

Jordan Marsh recipe.

They came out so good.

We made dinner

Pork cutlet pounded very thin

covered with sauce

and mozzarella cheese

and 3 cheese tortellinis.


Cleaned the kitchen

After we both tried a blueberry muffin

(They came out good!!)

and sat down.

Oh, and did a couple loads of laundry sometime too,

That was a busy day for me. Phew!!!

We all have days like this, where we are somehow energized by each thing we accomplish. It was fun, all day. Maybe I’ll be tired tomorrow, but maybe not. Life is good!