Question of the Day: Pride – Good or Bad?

Question of the Day

Is pride a good characteristic, or bad? Or both?

I was involved in a discussion about pride the other day. I did something that inspired someone to say “Aren’t you proud of yourself that you do that so well?” I’ve always thought that pride was a negative characteristic, and so said, “No, I’m happy I can do it, and that you can appreciate it. But I never thought of being proud of it.”

The other person went on to ask why I wasn’t proud. I told him I’ve always steered clear of pride, not wanting to seem arrogant, or conceited. I agreed with the meme below which puts pride under the ego, as a negative.


I was countered with examples where pride might be a good thing. Personal pride which inspires you to be your best self, and strive for excellence. Pride in community, where people work to improve their community. How it can be expanded to include organizations, nations, or the world. How about pride in and for our children?

Can’t pride and humility co-exist?

It seems to me that pride is a double edged sword, that there is a ying and a yang to it. There is a good side that, if a person is humble, inspires him or her to behave in ways that honor themselves and others. Then there is the other side, which is false pride, which the inspires a person believe they are better than everyone else. We all know people who are full of themselves, full of false pride. People whose pride won’t let them admit their short-comings, who can’t be accountable for their own actions. I believe there are many people, and I’m sure we’ve all known a few, who build a false pride to cover shame that they may feel, rightly or wrongly. I have known people who could not stand to be wrong. They would say whatever they had to say to excuse away some cruel, or mean, or just hurtful behavior. Their false pride kept them from facing their actions. It’s a slippery slope, once that path is started.

There is real pride though, that lifts others, I believe. Pride in being accountable, in facing the truth about yourself or a situation, inspires us to grow as humans, as communities, as nations, eventually as a world. I looked up the definition of pride and this is what Google has to say:

a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.”

Can that be a bad thing? Only when the achievements were egoic in nature, it seems to me. If someone does something like lie for the pleasure of manipulating others thoughts, and then feels proud that they were able to do it, they have started down that slope of giving ego rein over their lives. If, on the other hand the achievements for which one is proud have helped others, and honored themselves, it’s a different story. I think in this way, pride and humility can co-exist.

So tell me what do you think? In a comment, or your own blog, share your thoughts on pride.

As, ever, love and light to all.

Question of the Day: What’s Your Favorite Season?

Question of the Day

What is your favorite season and why? Or, do you love all seasons equally?

Before I moved to Florida, it was summer. Always summer. Since I was little, I loved the laid back, long hot days of summer with no school. I’ve always felt that we should still have summer off, lol. Summer solstice was always one of my favorite days up north, when the sun set after 9 PM, and was up by 5. It was rarely too hot for me, even the 95° days. Maybe because I usually spent them on the water, where it was usually cooler.

In Florida, I found that summer months mean a LOT of rain. It’s synonymous with monsoon season. There’s a saying down here that there are 2 seasons, monsoon and tourist. It’s not quite that bad, at least not here in the small town where I live. Tourist season is upon us, and many places are really busy, restaurants do a booming business at night and there is a lot of traffic to the beaches.

But this time of year, here is perfect. The weather is dry and temps around 80° during the day, around 65 at night so you can sleep with the windows open. I have to say that spring and fall are my favorite seasons here. Because they are a lot like summer up north.

So tell me, which do you like the best? Spring, summer, winter, or fall. I love to get all your comments on my questions, but if you feel moved to, write a blog and link it back so everyone can share.

As always, love and light to everyone.

Dreaming of Sleep


I dreamed that I slept

In the dark of night,

As the clocked ticked

And wakefulness plagued me.

Unconscious in

In my wakened state

With ocean waves crashing

I floated through the ethers.

I woke, and the dream ended

Was I ever asleep?

Have I really awakened?


By Deborah E. Dayen

Picture from via Google Images


Question of the Day: Where In The World?

Question of the Day

If money or time were not an object, where, if anywhere, would you travel? Why?

When I was in my 20’s and 30’s, I dreamed of tropical isles, like Bali, or Fiji, the Marquesas. I was heavy into boating then, and thought a perfect vacation would be to charter a boat and cruise the Caribbean, and the South Pacific for as long as I wanted. In fact, it was my ex’s and my plan to retire at 55 and buy a 50’ yacht and cruise for a couple years in south Florida, the Bahamas and the Caribbean. Hahaha. Talk about dreamers.

As I’ve gotten older, Italy has become the focus of my travel dreams. I have said it’s “too much Eat, Pray, Love and Under the Tuscan Sun.” In Eat, Pray, Love Liz Gilbert chose Italy (Eat) because it was a place that put a priority on pleasure. I want to go somewhere where there is no guilt associated with indulging in pleasure, where people encourage pleasure, not discourage it. It only adds to the desire to go there when I think about the beauty of Tuscany, or the Amalfi coast, or the incredible food, the ancient ruins of the cradle of civilization, the art that is everywhere. It seems it must be a feast for the senses.

Dan and I almost went this spring, but decided to delay the trip a year when I was diagnosed with RA. I wanted to get it under control, with the pain managed, before I take a trip that will involve walking lots. I will go though, for sure.

There are other places on my list, after Italy, and they are all vying for 2nd position, including but not limited to Ireland and the rest of the UK, France, and the South Pacific islands of my youthful dreams.

So tell me, if you could go anywhere in the world (or out of it if that’s your dream!) where would you go? And why?

As always, love and light to all.

Question of the Day: How Do You Achieve Inner Stillness?

Question of the Day 02-09-18

How do you achieve inner stillness?

Eckhart Tolle says that it is inner stillness that will save and transform the world. Sometimes that seems a stretch. I suppose because there are some people who will never achieve inner stillness, and actually think it’s a ridiculous notion.

I have a few methods to achieve it. The first, and most effective, is meditation. I used to do this every morning for at least 15 minutes. Now I do it more rarely in a formal fashion. But, I am still able to get into that deep meditative state very quickly. Like, when I went for an MRI, after a car accident, I asked for meditation music (they give you choices, and put headphones on you) and then just disappeared until it was over. It did not bother me at all, to be lying in that small tube for an hour. I opened my eyes in the beginning, saw that the top of the tube was inches above my head, and decided I would go somewhere else.

I wish they taught young children to meditate. I think it might have been the Dalai Lama who said if all children were taught to meditate by the time they were 8, this world would be a different place. I saw an article saying that one school had chosen to teach meditation to kids who were supposed to be getting detention. While that’s a great idea, I had to wonder why not teach all kids? Seems like detention might become unnecessary if they did that.

Another way to achieve inner stillness for me is to take a walk, especially by the water. Up north I lived on, then near a lake. Here in Florida, I drive the mile and a half to the ocean to walk. I think that walking is probably just a different way of meditating.

When I can’t sleep, I write, or read, to get my mind to settle down and stop the chatter. Especially at 3 AM. However you achieve it, it’s important to be able to find inner stillness. Sometimes just take a deep breath and say “Thank you.”

So, tell me, how do you achieve inner stillness? I think it would be interesting to hear other people’s methods.

Love and light, everyone.