Overwhelmed, or Boating in FL 101

The last time I outfitted a boat was 30 years ago. There was no internet. Therefore we relied on the advice of other boaters, and professionals at the shops and marine stores to determine which products to buy for our boat. Things such as the best wax, the best anchor, the best bottom paint.

Now, with the internet, we find ourselves endlessly clicking on different sites and products and videos, causing general overwhelmed-ness at least 3 times a day. Sometimes 10. There’s a downside to having so much information.

The other thing is, boating is so different down here in FL than up north. First of all, we’re in the water 12 months here. Up north it’s basically a 5 month season from May to October. Of course, for the most part this is great, because you get to use the boat year round, and can schedule maintenance that needs to be done on dry land whenever you feel like it.

Second of all, the water in the summer gets to be 90°. This is the biggest problem, really. Apparently 90° water is like steroids for critters in the ocean that like to adhere to boats, and their props and the water intakes. We’ve been told that in the summer, all it takes is 3 days to grow enough stuff to affect its ability to run. Almost everyone has told us to dry store the boat, which means in rack storage here, or on the trailer between uses. The problem is, we want the boat in the water. We want to be able to run down to the boat, say, after open mic night, and have a drink on the boat with friends. Or just hang out there when it’s too windy to go out.

While we will be enjoying the boat, so will the critters. They’re setting up housekeeping in the through-hull fittings and hoses while we sleep. It appears that it’s a constant battle to evict them, and even if you kill them, their bodies lay there, attached to wherever they were. Which can cause the engine, or the generator, or the air conditioning to overheat and shut down. How to clean them out, regularly from hard to reach places is something we have to figure out.

So right now, the boat is at the marine engine repair place, being serviced. It should be done today or tomorrow. In the meantime we are constantly online, and talking to people trying to find out the best way to deal with the issue of having stuff grow on and in the boat. Which means, of course, trying to cut through all the information and misinformation to come to the best solution.


I’m pretty glad that I already know how to tie a boat up, and anchor a boat, and chart a course confidently. That would be an awful lot to learn to do, on top of all the other parts of owning a new-to-us boat, in a different climate than either of us are used to. I’m also really happy that Dan and I deal with being overwhelmed by talking to each other and not at each other. We don’t take it out on each other. We struggle individually and we have our moments, but they are only moments. We’ve learned to shut it down, and walk away for a little while when either one of us, or both of us, go there. In the end, our relationship is strengthened by solving these problems.

I realize that this post might be pretty boring for people not into boating, or boats, but it’s front and center in my head at the moment. I’m hoping that once we’ve got the boat in the water and are sitting in it, watching the sun set over the Gulf, that the sea will become my muse and inspire some real writing again.

As ever, love and light to everyone.

Question of the Day: Coincidences, Yes or No

Question of the Day

Do you believe in coincidences?

Obviously I do not. If you read my last blog, you will see that I believe nothing that’s happened to me was a coincidence, and it was all designed by the universe (my name for the higher power) to bring me to where I am. I think I’ve disbelieved in coincidences since I read The Celestine Prophesy back in the 90’s.

I’d love to hear your stories on coincidences or lack of them. So tell me in a comment, or your own blog linked back to this one.

As ever, love and light to everyone.

Beneath The Surface Of Buying A Boat

We bought a boat. Yesterday. It is a 27’ cruising boat, often called a pocket cruiser. Sleeps 4 people, with a tiny galley and a head. It’s a single engine, it has a generator so we can use the air conditioning when we are anchored out. It’s perfect to spend a few days at a time on, and cruise the waters around here. We are excited, to say the least. It will be a couple weeks before it sees the water, since we are having the engine and generator completely gone through and serviced, and we have a lot of clean-up to do, as well as get the boat outfitted properly.

I am more than excited. I have often said that my old boat, that I had with my ex, kept me married far longer than I should have been because I didn’t want to give up that part of my life. I so love being on the water. Finally, I realized that when it gets bad, it’s bad, and no matter how much I loved the boating life, it couldn’t make up for living with a controlling abusive man, who just got worse with each passing day.

I wrote off the boating life, and focused on life. Period. I wanted a joyful life. I think that finally, after what Dan calls a few left turns, I have that in all areas of my life. Manifestation of my dreams. But now…now! I have the opportunity to get back on the water, with a man I just adore who will match my enthusiasm, and who treats me like gold.

I am in awe of the way the universe has conspired in my behalf over the last 11 years. Even though there were times I couldn’t see it, it was all working for me, to bring me here, and now. To give me financial security from my divorce, to finding the right home in Florida, to living close to my family, to finding a circle of friends down here that are wonderful, and most of all, bringing Dan and I together, with perfect timing. To find someone whose dreams are so compatible with mine, and his nature so compatible with mine, is amazing. A real partnership, at last, which allows us to fearlessly buy a boat together.  Which gives me back a part of my life that I thought was in the past.

So, today, I am grateful, and excited, and happy. I hope I don’t sound like I’m bragging, because I am so not. I am just so grateful, and needed to express that, to put it out into the universe.

As always, love and light to all.

The Silent Sea and I

half moon

The silence roped me in.

Quiet surrounded me.

The sea beneath me was calm,

Moving placidly,

I could feel it’s flow

on it’s journey around this earth.

Blown by winds at times,

Renewed with rains

Vaporized by the sun

Frozen by the cold.

Still, tonight, it moved me

In silence.

Staring up at the night sky

A comet raced by

and disappeared into the darkness.

The half moon hung suspended,

the flat side of it ragged,

fading into the night.

We are one,

This silent sea, the night and I.

Arms outstretched

I lay, floating,

the only sound was my breath.

By Deborah E. Dayen

Picture from Google Images


Lots of Stuff in the Works

I’ve not been around lately, which is becoming the norm. Dan’s daughter and the grandkids were here last week, and as soon as they left we were planning and preparing for Easter dinner for his family. My brother-in-law stopped by for breakfast on the way home from the airport on Monday, and the inspector came yesterday to look at the now uncaulked and freshly shimmed windows, and passed them. So now, to get Home Depot to schedule the windows for recaulking, and the inspector for a final inspection.

Yesterday the boat we want to buy was brought over to the yard near my house for it’s engine survey which will be done today. We will be there, and checking out a lot of other things on the boat, like the condition of the bimini top, and the hot water/water pressure system. Hoping for a good survey on the engines. The boat itself is in really good condition, and I’m sure we can fix anything that’s wrong with it, but if the engines andgenerator are not good, it’s a no go, because to replace them would be more than the cost of the boat. We spent Monday evening with a friend of ours on his 40’ sailboat which he plans to sail around the world in a couple of years. His boat is at the marina in town where we’d like to keep the boat, so we got a feel for the marina life there.

My younger sister is coming for a visit in less than 2 weeks, and I can’t wait to see her! We’ll go over to my older sisters house on the island, and mostly hang out there. We’re all pretty excited to be together again.

Lots of exciting stuff in the works at the moment, and I am about to leave now to go see them survey the engine. I’ll be back, not sure how soon. Maybe later, maybe not for a few days. Hope all is well with everyone. Love and light to all.

Pictorial Sunset Essay

This is a series of pictures of the sunset the other night on Treasure Island Beach, one of the St. Pete barrier beaches.  The first is a picture of the grandkids playing in the Gulf as we sat in the lounge chairs, sipping mojitos, waiting for the sunset.  Hope you enjoy the pics!

sunset 1

sunset 2

sunset 3

sunset 4

sunset 5

Pictures taken by me, March 27, 2018