I was married for 32 years. Over the years, the marriage became more and more emotionally abusive. It took me a long time to figure it out, a long time to get out once I figured out I had to to save my life and my son’s life. Once I managed to leave the marriage, I faced an epic battle which took 4 years and ended up in the Supreme Court of Connecticut.
Learning to Live Like Water is the working title of a book I began writing about that battle: to leave, to survive, to save my son, and to get what was mine. Along the way, a path appeared in front of me, which gave me the strength and ability to fight the good fight until it was done.
I call this path Living Like Water. Water symbolizes our journey back to source. I believe that when we are born we come in on the “breath of angels” (a phrase I once heard Oprah use to describe how we enter this world). As we grow, we tend to forget what we knew when we were born. If we are lucky, we realize how much we’ve forgotten, and begin the soul’s journey back to that source.
Water can change form, from liquid to gas, to solid. it can break down any obstacle. We must change course when the dam blocks you, with steady, focused motion, you break down the barriers or find a way around them. Water always finds a way, and I found, so will the human spirit when allowed.
I learned lessons on my journey that I would not otherwise have learned. Now I am grateful for the whole journey, I know it was meant to teach me, that in my struggles I stumbled upon my strength. The most important lesson is the power of love…the only real power which exists. Unconditional love….saved me, saved my son, and is what we will all find at the center, if we can let go of the fear that keeps us from this journey.