You know what bothers me?  Using the excuse that he likes the darkness and that’s what he seeks to excuse hurtful behavior. It’s such a cop out. 

He doesn’t have to change his behavior, because he “seeks the darkness”.  Is he saying he seeks to behave in ways that hurt others? 

It’s one thing to behave in a way that may be offensive to others but does not hurt them. But, specifically, to have intimate relations with someone who you know is in love with you, and afterward tell them you want many women, is hurtful. And to have intimate relations with someone while still grieving an old relationship, taking the chance that this new person you’re with now is going to fall for you when you have no intention of falling for them is hurtful and wrong. 

I took years off after my marriage from other men while I healed from the damage done. But I intentionally didn’t date anyone so that no one would fall for me when I couldn’t fall for them. I started seeing A when S did the prison whore.  I regret it to this day because A fell for me and I could never feel the same way about him. It was a lesson learned that won’t be repeated. And it irritates me that I was smart enough to know that I shouldn’t have done it, but I did it anyway because I was such a mess after the prison whore.  

The point is you don’t get to excuse your behavior by saying you like the darkness.  If you do say that and believe it, your intent is evil, and your intention is to cause damage to someone else. 

‘Nuff said. But that’s what’s bothering me at the moment. Darkness, schmarkness. Don’t hurt other people.