THE RULES:
- Thank the person who nominated you.
- Post a quote for three consecutive days.
- Nominate three bloggers each day.
A big thank you to my friend Survivednarc for the nomination. She has a wonderful blog and inspires me most every day. Check her out!
MY QUOTE FOR TODAY:
I chose Brene Brown because she is another of my favorite authors, and spiritual teachers, and such a cool person. She has a PHD in Social work. She does research for a living, on the things that grip our hearts and souls, and takes them apart and allows us to see them as they are, and us as we are. Her definition of integrity comes from her talk The Anatomy of Trust. She is exactly on point.
My nominees today are:
- trE from a cornered gurl
- Don’t You Forget About Me
- the creativerational
learningtolivelikewaterblog.com 
Great quote! I didn’t know that much about Brene Brown until I read about her on your blog and others. It is great that she is from my “field” of work, Social work. 🙂 Although she has a higher academic degree and does research while I work “in the field”.. oh well, it is still kind of cool. 🙂
Her book Rising Strong absolutely got me through the break up. And her TED talk on vulnerability is one of the most amazing talks ever. Just google her name, it will probably be the first hit. I’ve watched it at least a dozen times. She’s had over 22 million hits on it. If that’s your field, she will be like a guru to you. Just brilliant. (And she and Liz Gilbert are close friends, it’s no surprise to me!)
Oh, Deb. I love this quote! 🙂
Oh you gotta watch her videos, The Anatomy of Trust, and her TED talk on Vulnerability. I’ve watched them both a dozen times. The TED talk, in particular has made me cry. It explains to me why my ex and Scott are the way they are. Understanding can lead to forgiveness, and forgiveness allows me to just move away from the pain with a little grace, instead of anger. xoxo
You know, “understanding leaves to forgiveness” just struck a chord. I finally found out why my mama hated me after she died.
The “understanding” was like a ton had been lifted off of my shoulders. Now…there was a reason. I understood. Forgiveness? I’m not sure I’ve forgiven her but I’m not eaten alive with questions.
With Loser? There has never been any understanding. His answers were always “I don’t know” or “I’m not going to answer that.”
It’s the peace that comes with understanding that is healing….I really don’t “forgive” but somehow, once I have an answer, the forgiveness part seems insignificant.
Does that make any sense?
*leads*
Yes. Absolutely. Most people who are like your mother and my ex and Scott have great emotional pain that just was never worked through. If you can only get to the place where you aren’t angry about it, where you can actually feel a little empathy maybe, because you can now see the underlying cause, it loses its grip on you. It’s a huge step in letting go of the pain, which to me is all forgiveness is.
As for loser….he can’t face who he is. Apparently WTC doesn’t ask him to snd they live in a pretend ignorance. Blech. I can usually get to a place of forgiveness, because I just don’t want either of them controlling my emotions with the pain they doled out. But it doesn’t mean I won’t steer clear of them for the rest of my life and seek out people who bring live, light, and laughter into my life. 😎