Not understanding this one concept causes more damage to this world than probably any other thing. Not understanding it causes shame, which causes people to act out in many terrible ways, trying to prove they are worthy, to themselves and others, of love and belonging. I have known people, intimately, who have acted out in dangerous and selfish ways, trying to prove to themselves that they are worthy of something.
I wish everyone knew that they are, just because they exist. All the pretense, all the games would just go away. Like Brene says, when we are born, we are wired for struggle. But we are also worthy, during that life-long struggle, of love and belonging.
The answer is always love. John Lennon was right. All we need is love.
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What if the problem is that somebody thinks that HE is the ONLY worthy person alive (aside from his drunken mama and his WTC?) What if the problem is that somebody like that has spent forty years trying to emphasize how unworthy somebody else is? What if the problem is somebody like that has instilled a sense of unworthiness in his children and they have turned into bullies, just like him, to try to compensate?
Yep. All we need is love…sometimes all we get is damage from the effects of somebody who thinks they are superior.
If he knew he was worthy, which he clearly doesn’t, at least at the soulful level, he wouldn’t have had to prove his worthiness by fucking as many women as he could. Or trying to deceive you. The fact that he thinks he’s superior doesn’t make him so. Mass murderers also think they are. But they all act from shame, trying to prove to themselves that, dammit, their worthy too. Saying, look at me. I have the power to be an asshole. What goes on with your kids and him and her… I think is more common unworthiness bonding. My ex is a lot like him, tho was too scared of diseases to cheat. But believed his abusive parents were all that. And they passed it on to him. Which is why I had to get out and get my son out. When I did it I didn’t think I’d ever see a dime snd that was ok because I’d have my life and my son his. The universe rectified that for me, lol. I just had to let go of what he did and tried to do and envision the life I wanted. He got what he dreamed of for sure. Lol. He would have burned his money before he’d have paid me alimony.
I’ve heard that…about proving their worthiness by being bullies but I’ll tell you. He was all but raised wearing a crown. He was “mr. everything in school.” He was on every single page of his yearbooks. He was the first person EVER in the history of his high school to be accepted to Duke, Harvard, Princeton and Yale.
I think he is the exception to the rule. His feeling of superiority is not a complex…it is real.
Besides who cares what he thinks of himself? Just keep those checks, coming. Besides that he can go fuck himself if he thinks he’s that great
I will admit….it makes me smile when I think of the money he has to pay me…especially after he snarled and said “I’m not paying you fucking alimony.” LOL
Exactly. Keep those checks coming King Farouk. He can believe he’s the president of the world. Just make sure your checking on time. 😜
LOL. If only they were on time. They’re always a month late. As soon as the QDRO is settled, they’ll be on time.
Yes…very true. If people knew that they were enough, they would not have to use others for feeling worthy and valuable.
Yes! All we need is love. I love that! 😉