Question of the day
To trust or not to trust?
Do you tend to trust upon meeting someone, until they prove themselves untrustworthy, or do you hold off on giving your trust to them, until they prove they deserve it?
I have always, and often to my detriment, been a trusting soul. I have always trusted people until I was given a reason not to. This will probably not change with me. For me, it goes to the issue of being able to be vulnerable, and risk the hurt that can come if someone betrays that trust. Because if you aren’t willing to risk that, then you are also risking the chance at some real joy. The ying and the yang, they cannot be separated.
However, I have a friend who generally chooses not to trust anyone until they’ve proven they can be trusted. I’m sure that choice saves one from some of the pain that comes from trusting the wrong person. I get it, and sometimes I wish I could pull back a little on my nature. Sometimes the pain is great, and certainly not worth the risk.
In writing this, I realize that I do hold back at times. I think most of us do, because we’re not sure of people’s reactions. For instance, I hold back the fact that my abusive ex is now in a mental health facility, because I’m not sure anyone could understand that, or me, until they know me better through other facets of my life.
Indeed, it is a judgment call, isn’t it, when narrowed down to an individual basis. But I guess the question I’m asking is what is your typical, normal response in meeting someone new?
So the question today is, which are you? Do you tend to trust people, and their words and actions, until they break the trust? Or do you hold off on trusting them, until they prove they can be trusted? I’d love to know how other people feel about this, and am looking forward to your comments.
As ever, love and light to all.