I’m back. One blog. But today, I am dedicating the blog to my mom, who we lost last night.
Mom had a massive stroke in October 2014 that left her unable to speak, read, or write. Since then, for 16 months, she has had only her memories and her thoughts. Even though she could understand,she couldn’t communicate. I know she is at peace now, with my dad. I am so glad I went to they psychic a couple months ago, because my dad’s spirit was there, and he asked me to write her a letter, a long letter, relaying stories of us growing up and letting her know how much we appreciate her and loved her. I did that, at his request and I’m ever so grateful for that direction, so that I know nothing was left unsaid with her. The psychic also said that my dad was with her in the convalescent home she was in and would stay there with her, which gave me a lot of comfort.
My mother and father were the people who taught me the value of unconditional love. We never talked about it, we just lived it. My sisters and I grew up knowing that we had value just because we existed, and that knowledge, when I was able to actually form it into a thought, was what I knew would save my son. At the end of the day, with both of my parents, I never went to bed wondering if they loved me. I took it for granted, as all children should be able to. I know now, in a very personal way, what happens to people who don’t have that luxury. It has always been our rock to stand on our whole lives.
My mother’s own mother, my grandmother, died when my mom was 4. She lived with her large extended family growing up, as her father looked for work as an iron worker during the Great Depression. We had a family reunion for her 80th birthday. The whole family came, kids, grandkids, great-grandkids….She told us, “you can’t imagine how happy this makes me to see this, to have this big loving family, after growing up without one.”
The lessons I learned from her I am still uncovering. Grace, even under the worst pressure. Survival. Thriving. Moving past things and going forward. Forgiving. Compassion. Countless more I can’t even put to words at the moment.
She was the glue that held us together, and I know that her love will live on in my sisters and me, and will continue to be the glue that holds us together going forward. Blessed, so blessed to have had her as my mother.
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So sorry about your mother, I hope she is in peace now. I am glad that you have all those memories of love from your parents! That is wonderful. Hugs! 💜
Thanks. I’m sure she is at peace, and it’s a great comfort to know that. thanks again.
Heartfelt sorrow for the loss of your mama. As a child whose mama neglected and abused her, I can tell you (and I know I don’t need to) how blessed you were to have such parents. I’m sure they are at this very moment walking side-by-side, holding hands and smiling at each other.
Warm hugs.
Thank you laurel. I thank God every day for them. And I know they are together now. It brings me so much peace. Thank you so much.
You’re so welcome. I hope they will give you some sort of sign to let you know they are happy and okay. I believe it that kind of thing….and I don’t care how many people criticize me for it.
I do too. But I know even without one. At the psychic a month or so ago she wai my dad was there with her. I know he greeted her as she crossed over. Peace finally b
Love that. 🙂
I offer my sincerest condolences for this gargantuan loss. Blessings to you and your family.
Thank you so much.
You are more than welcome. Bless you for the sweet memories and the bounty of love she showed you.
I am so sorry. I lost my mom 5 years ago. My prayers are with you.
Thank you so much.
I am really sorry for your loss
Very sorry for your loss. Glad for her that her spirit now is free to join your father.
Such a beautiful tribute to your mother, your words about her prove that what she and your dad taught you really has formed who you are, she would be proud of your words…
I lost my mom 2 months ago. Some days I think that nobody will ever love me again…like she did. I’m so sorry for your loss. Lovely post. x
Thanks Jane. I really feel her presence. If you had a mom that loved you, you’re so blessed. I’m sorry for your loss too
I’m so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a very special person. You’re light that shines so bright must come from both of them. Still a difficult loss. Hugs to u n your family!
Thank you so much Emma. I was truly blessed.
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