Someone told me tonight that my ability to forgive is amazing. While that is a compliment, (I think, lol), I thought about it for awhile, and why that is. I have endured a lot of pain at someone else’s hand, yet I can’t stay angry, and I am constantly looking for a way to forgive, and move on, move forward.
I think that the poster below says it better than anything I could. Brene Brown explains human nature to me as no one else has ever been able. When I read this, I know this person doesn’t believe they are worthy of love and belonging. I know they are, worthy of it, that’s all. I know everyone is, just because they exist, for no other reason.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what was done to me was right, it doesn’t mean I want that person in my life. It just means that what they did cannot hurt me anymore, and it recognizes that people are generally doing the best they can. The best they can based on their level of consciousness at the time. It doesn’t mean that I want that level in my life. Forgiveness acknowledges a person’s innate worth. As she says, it’s an irreducible need of all people to be loved. I will always love this person. I have forgiven everything. And I move on with my life.
If you have been hurt by someone, or something, and you can’t seem to get your footing back, I highly recommend Brene Brown’s book, Rising Strong. She will help you get off the floor and back to a standing position, to heal your wounds and move on with your life.