Done with the Dating Thing

The date today was the weirdest one yet. I just disabled my account, I am really sick of meeting weird boring men. Weird is ok, I guess, depends on what kind of weird. But this guy?

Invites me to Friendly’s. Not upscale, but fine for a meet and greet. He walked across the parking lot and when he was within earshot, says, “HEY, HOT STUFF…..” So, right there, I was about to get back in the car, and leave. I knew it was not going anywhere. But I was starving. So we went in.

As we are walking toward the front door, he says, “I just made it here on time! I didn’t even have a chance to put on underwear. Do you mind?” I said, well, “I’m not going looking for them, so it doesn’t really matter to me.” But really, wtf? Who says that to a woman he just met, and barely has talked to? Another reason I knew it was not gonna go well.

This man is skinny. I mean like SKINNY. I think the pics on his profile are at least 7 or 8 years old. He didn’t look that skinny, and he had more hair. He suggested Friendly’s because they have “salads and things I like.” I was hungry, I ordered a salad. He ordered a dish of ice cream with whipped cream and a cherry on top. And a glass of water. That’s it.

He gets the water, and he opens a package of sweet and low and pours it in the water, and mixes it up. At this point I am probably looking at him cross-eyed. Then he pointedly ate his cherry making a few inappropriate sounds….. UGH. ICK. Get me the fuck out of here.

His personality matched his behavior. Just weird, inappropriate, shallow, stupid…..

He asked if I wanted to see him again, I said, “let’s see.” The date was over in 35 minutes, he was anxious to go after I said that. But honest to God, what did he expect? Like he crawled out of some rock in the mountains, and didn’t know how to behave with human women.

I disabled my account. Enough is enough. If I put it back up, it will say I live in Florida, and maybe I can have a conversation with someone between now and when I move, and meet them when I move. Or maybe not. Maybe just wait til I move and meet people in person, and forget the internet. The most normal people I’ve met there were Scott, who is a liar and a cheat, and Addison, who is a wonderful guy but so needy, way way too needy for me. Oh and I met an artist I went out with briefly, I liked him but he turned out to be fairly crazy too.

I think I’ll just hang out with my girlfriends this summer, and my son. And say the St. Joseph prayer every day to get my house sold. I can start my packing, and my son’s. Leave these losers to their own devices.

Kinda glad it was over early though. Because now I’m in my “sacred space” on my deck with a glass of wine, and feeling all kinds of comfortable.

Love and light…..

38 responses to “Done with the Dating Thing

  1. Sorry about the weird date! Yes I have talked to plenty of weird guys online the last year so I also had enough for a while… 😉
    Hopefully it goes better in Florida! xo

  2. From reading other people’s dating blog experiences, it sounds like matches made in hookup land. But in your case, it was just inappropriate and strange. I wonder if the man is seeking a mother figure as he chose sweetened water??

  3. The sweet and low in water is usually accompanied by a lemon. That is called “Southern Lemonade.” Looks like he “done stole one of our recipes!”
    And, free-balling it to a date? Puh-lease! I think he should have wandered down to the local bar and picked up the first tramp who wanted to cop a free feel! LOL

  4. Oh boy, this dude creeps me out. Totally weird! The sweetened water, oh well, but no underwear AND sharing this with your date?!?! What the… Idiot. Good riddance I say. But don’t be done with the dating thing, we’ll have to go through a shit loads of weird before we meet prince charming (again, haha). 🙂

  5. Sounds like he was abit immature. The only thing I can excuse him for as a guy is the occasional jokey comment at the start. Might have been a way for him to break the ice 😬 but maybe I’m cutting him too much slack 😂 hopefully you have better luck in the future! Thanks for sharing!

  6. He was definitely not the guy for you. So consider it a bullet that you dodged. That being said…If you don’t mind me asking… where or how do you typically meet guys? A lot of times, the problem is us. Not the other person. The other person is simply being themselves and we can’t expect them to change. Meaning… no-good men will always be around as will no-good women. But the one thing you can change is YOU. The way you think and go about things for starters. I talk about this a lot in my blog. We have to do better at making choices vs quitting because we don’t like the choices we’re making. I don’t know how things started, but one of the #1 ways to vet someone is to actually talk to them a few times before going on a date with them. And really talk to them. Find out more about them… you’ll dismiss more people this way vs wasting your time going out on date. Dating is a necessary evil. But you can make it easier if you make more sound decisions and vet through the choices you have better as well. Believe me, I’ve been there and empathize. But things didn’t change for me until I change my thinking. 🙂

    • Key, thank you for your lengthy thoughtful advice. Please notice I wrote this last June. Many things have changed for me since then. I’ve moved from CT to FL. I retired. I’ve been off and on dating sites since then, had a quasi relationship with an bf, and am not currently on any sites. Now that I’m retired, living the good life in a great beach community I find lots more opportunities to meet men in real life, instead of on sites. However, I always did talk to them first, always will and right now, I may have found the guy I’m looking for! Time will tell.

      • That-is-AWESOME! I’m glad that things have gotten better for you. Apologies about not paying attention to the date. (bangs head on wall) I think dating sites are ok… but shouldn’t be the only way people choose to meet each other. And a lot of times people don’t talk enough before the date. Then the date comes and you-know-what hits the fan. I’d definitely like to link to you blog from time on my posts… if that’s ok with you. Let me know… and perhaps we can link to each other if you find anything useful on my blog. 🙂 Either way, I would say good luck, but you got this!

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