I woke in the middle of the night last night, which is not unusual. For some reason, Brene Brown’s anagram, “B R A V I N G” trust came into my head, and particularly, the last letter of it, G, for generosity.
If you have not seen Brene’s video, The Anatomy of Trust, which is well worth watching, you might ask what generosity has to do with trust. It refers to generosity of spirit. That when someone does or says something that you could take as hurtful, you don’t. Instead, you extend generosity of spirit to that person, and say something like, “you know, what you just said kind of stung, but I know you didn’t mean to sting me, and we’re ok. I just wanted you to know that’s what I was thinking.”
Be generous. Remember that we are all flawed, and we all say and do things that don’t exactly reflect what we want to reflect, and we all accidentally hurt others, and we don’t mean to. It’s a very human flaw.
It’s good to say something, and include the generosity. Why say something? Because it allows growth for both people, to put it on the table.
I know for a fact that I have not always been generous in my thoughts of what people have said. I still have that hyper-vigilance thing going on, where I want to defend myself from all attacks. But sometimes, I’m tilting at windmills, you know? Sometimes what was said was only in jest, or perhaps without a lot of thought, but was not meant to hurt me. There was no evil intent. I was wasting my time fighting something that was never meant to cause me harm. And in the process, hurting others with my accusations.
I think the thought about generosity came to me in the middle of the night because maybe it was just time for me to learn it, to understand it, to see it, to own it. And to realize that I don’t need to take everything that’s ever said with such seriousness.
And maybe it came to me because there are 4 planets in retrograde, or going into retrograde or coming out of retrograde shortly. Who knows? It came when it was supposed to. Lesson learned.
Love and light, everyone.
Important lesson. Thanks for sharing it with us, Deb. ♥
You’re welcome. Nothing like those middle of the night epiphanies. Lol.
This is some powerful insight. I can related well to wanting to defend myself from all attacks – so I won’t be taken advantage of. At times I can be generous and other times, the defenses comes up. Definitely something to observe!
This is really in the context of the talk on the anatomy of trust, so it’s in regard to building trust. It’s one of the ways that happens, one of the foundational blocks of trust. I would have to say there are times when I haven’t cared if I built trust with someone, and maybe those times would not have been generous. But with someone to whom our trust is important, and theirs to us, it’s a valuable thing to learn to do. Hugs……
Something I can be more intentional about. Grateful hugs.