I have a couple of crystal pendulums. For those who don’t know what they are, they are a pointed crystal, attached to a chain usually. You hold the end of the chain in your dominant hand, and place it about 2 or 3 inches above the open palm of your non-dominant hand. You can ask it questions and it will move one direction for yes, and a different one for no.
I have two of these. When you get them they should be cleansed of anyone else’s energy that has handled them, which can be done with white sage smoke. Or putting them outside under the full moon, but then you usually have to wait, lol. Salt is also cleansing.
The crystal gets a vibration from your higher self, which is connecting to the universe, and thus, higher energy. It will answer yes and no questions. It’s not, obviously, fool-proof. But it is uncanny how often in my life it’s given me the right answer. I also use it doing Reiki, just to verify that energy is flowing.
The first time you use it after it’s cleansed, you ask it to show you yes and then no. It can be a different for each person, and each crystal, although both of mine swing back and forth in a straight line for yes, and in a clockwise circle for no.
I try to clear my head before I use one by getting into a meditative state, trying not to influence the answer I get. I also try to get a few feet away from any electronics.
Usually if I ask it a question, it goes very still at first. One of my pendulums is a clear faceted quartz pendulum, and I can see it suddenly start vibrating at a very fast rate, which is only visible because of the way the light reflects in the facets. Then it will suddenly start swinging or circling.
Sometimes it hangs really still for a long time, as if it can’t find the vibe. I then try to visualize the person’s face I’m asking about, and where they are at the time, even their address. Usually by the time I open my eyes again, it is swinging one way or the other.
When I got the vibe yesterday about S not being well, I waited and asked it when I got home. I wanted to get away from the influence of the day’s crazy energy. The answer was that he was not well, which just verified what my gut was screaming at me. I looked at the email I had drafted. It gave up nothing, except to tell him what I felt. It also told him I hoped he was well and able to deal with all that had happened. And all that is true. But I wanted nor needed any response from him. He knows I am usually right when I have these strong connections. But honestly with his health history I felt, really, that I should at least tell him. So I sent it late last night. There has been no answer. Which is fine. I don’t need one.
Before anyone gets all up in arms that I would contact him, understand that I am way over the heartbreak. Even if I miss him, I know that what I miss isn’t who he is now, and it doesn’t upset me. His making me laugh is really just a good memory. I have an ability to talk to anyone, at any time. I can put him in his proper place in my life. I don’t regret the way I loved him, I don’t love him that way now. He’s a wreck, really. He often told me he was still grieving the end of his relationship with Betty, but he blamed her, not himself. He stopped talking about her about 8 or 9 months into our relationship. Especially when I came back from Florida in March, he said he was open to a relationship, he said everything I had dreamed of hearing. Then a few weeks later she showed up…. but he wouldn’t let me go.
At any rate, I’m over it. I can talk to him, if he felt the need, but I don’t need to talk to him. I just felt that he should know what I felt about his health. Because I can’t help it that I have this connection to him, whatever it is. It doesn’t really feel like I’m tied to him, or corded. Just that I had information that might be good for him to know. That’s it. He has it now, and I can let it go.
I had to learn how to do this with my ex. Four years in court, and a son to deal with. I am able to put whats behind me, behind me.
The pendulum also tells me that she won’t ever forgive him, or take him back. It could be wrong. The pendulum isn’t fool proof. Maybe it’s just reading the energy as it is now. It’s been less than a full month since she found out that the whole time he was with her, he was with me too. I’ve had almost 3 times that long to absorb the loss, although I only found out when she did that he was also with her the last six months that he was with me.
I hope the pendulum and I are wrong about his health. As for Betty, I was just curious. I don’t really care. But I do think he’s cashed in all his trust chips with us both.