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Laugh Til You Fart

Posted on by learning to live like water

(Warning:  Adults only…..)

I was talking to a dear friend tonight about how I had one man who was an awesome lover, but not fun, and another one who was not really a good lover at all, was quite self absorbed, but made me laugh all the time. He made me laugh so hard I farted once, in the middle of sex. Which had us both hysterical. (And me red-faced, lol) Once when we broke up he said, “Who’s gonna make you laugh til you fart now?” (We stayed broken up for a few days I think, lol.)

I’d rather have the laughs I think, than the heavy serious lover. I love to laugh.

In truth, I want both, lol. An unselfish, caring lover who can make me laugh til I fart.

But I remember being talked down to, because I had a rich full life with the funny one. And I said to that person, “Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be? To have great sex with the man you love?” Geezus. I should feel bad about that? Or be embarrassed? WTF?

I just don’t get that attitude. As if it’s not one of the joys of being in a relationship with someone. As if sex with the person you love should be a burden.  Or you should make them feel it is.

Well, anyway, I never understood that whole thing. I suppose some people just have baggage, that keeps them from enjoying fully that wonderful part of intimacy, in a (for me) closed, monogamous relationship.  I don’t want to be judgmental.  I’m just happy that I don’t have any, lol.

I’m sure there’s someone out there (in Florida!!!) that will join me in that endeavor

Love and light, all.

Intimacy Issues

Posted on by learning to live like water

Been thinking a lot about this…what is intimacy, really?  And why are so many people afraid of it?  Afraid of the difficult but fulfilling conversation that leads to true understanding of another?  Why does some conversation, meant to be an opportunity to let another know who you are, become an attack on another?  Why do people pretend to have intimate conversations via text and email, instead of taking time in their busy lives to talk to someone they feel intimate with, on any level?

Is it because the electronic communication makes us feel protected from hurt?  Does it put another layer of resistance between, a speaking to, without actually looking in the eyes, or at least, hearing the words?  Is it because a text can so easily be ignored, and explained away?  “Oh I didn’t see your text?”  “I didn’t understand what you were asking.”  “I was busy…”  “I didn’t check my email today yet.”

All could be true.  And all could be a way to avoid intimacy.  Why? Why do we mistake physical intimacy for personal, emotional, spiritual intimacy?

Questions, questions.  There may be more to come on this….Lots of questions, few answers.