I slept 7 hours last night, the first time all week I’ve gotten a decent night’s sleep. I was at peace finally. The truth is on the table and now can be dealt with by the universe and the people involved. I can go on with my life and know I did the right thing.
I always told S when he was breaking up with me, which happened in 18 months a few times, that it would hurt, but I was strong and would get over it. I always knew I would. He said, “You aren’t strong. You crumble like a little girl.” He was the one who crumbled, when I said ok, go….he never could. He could never walk away. He still can’t.
Although I did crumble. But I could also put myself back together. I knew what to do, how to do it. I guess my ex gave me practiced. When I found out about Betty, I didn’t think I’d be able to put myself back together. I have never hurt so much in my life. It was his cruelty in the way he told me, not that he wanted to be with her. It was his callous disregard for the way I loved him. But just over 6 weeks later, I have myself almost back together.
I bet that S has changed his mind about whether or not I am strong now.
My biggest problem going forward will be sensing his feelings, sensing what is going on with him. I still have no explanation as to why I do this, but there have always been people with whom I can do this.
The first time was when my ex and I were about 30. We lived on a lake, and our neighbor kid who was about 20,used to go water skiing with us a lot, often we’d have him over to eat after. One day we came home from a trip, and he came over. He was in the living room talking to my ex, I was in the kitchen. I began shaking, literally. I sensed some really dark horrible energy, and I wasn’t into energy work at all. I called him into the kitchen, and told him, “I don’t know what’s happening, but you need to get him out of the house, NOW. ” My ex didn’t argue, he just did it.
Six months later, the kid went down the street, and killed an old woman and stole her car.
It still creeps me out.
I tend to listen to these messages, and will continue. If I determine they are warnings to me, I will act. Otherwise, I’ll let them go. A psychic told me that S was sucking my energy dry, that I didn’t have to do anything about the vibe I got from him, I got them because I am an empath. And that I needed to turn the energy in on myself.
This will be my aim going forward. To do what is right for me, and to let go the vibes I get from S. And anyone else they come from. I told her I thought I knew him in a past life, she said that could well be true.
I was so relieved to hear that I was not expected to deal with the crazy info that I would get at random times.
I have a gong bath tonight, perfect timing. I am so grateful to wake up to no drama today, the drama is all over in his corner, and it’s what he loves. He feels most loved when someone is crying over him. Lord knows he did it enough with me, and while I was crying he would make me laugh, hard, endearing himself to me.
He told that every woman in his life has hurt him. I thought, I won’t join that club. I loved him so much, beyond reason, without limit. As it turns out, I’m sure in his mind I hurt him. Badly. I don’t expect he will ever take ownership of this story.
If he was smart, he would take this whole episode as a gift, as the gift of ruin, as rock bottom emotionally, and begin to transform into someone he could be proud of, that could love himself, and others with his whole heart. He would direct this energy inward, and do some real soul-searching to figure out why he finds it so necessary to manipulate people. It was, really, an act of love, to make him accountable for his actions, even though he will never see it that way.
I don’t think he will ever get that.
If he’s smart, he will use this time to do what he told me he wanted to do all summer when he made up this story so he could be with Betty every weekend. Be alone, learn to be alone. Learn who he is, and change what he doesn’t like. Discover his passions, figure out what he wants for the rest of his life. I hope he does this.
But it’s not my problem anymore. I’m running to the light. I’m tying up the loose ends of my emotions around this, and connecting all the dots, and every minute I feel better and more distant from all the chaos of the last few months.
I can look at S, as someone I loved, I can feel the same detached sorrow for him as I do for my ex. A detached sorrow, that he feels so unlovable, that he has to lie and manipulate people into his life. He has done it so much that he just lies as a way of life, just like my ex. As far as me….he had me at hello. He just couldn’t believe it. I bet it was that way that way for Betty too.