Haiku No. 157: No Safety Net (3 parts)

no safety net

There’s no safety net
To catch me when hard times fall.
I’ve had to make my own.

It’s a net of light,
Woven of love, trust, and truth.
Clarity of mind.

Catching me gently,
It soothes me where it finds me,
‘Til the aching’s gone.

This haiku came about as a result of a conversation I had with my cousin, about how I seem so able to deal with letting go of things, like my son moving away, a horrible marriage and divorce, a failed love affair.  I said, “i don’t have a safety net. I’m by myself most of the time.  I have to make my own, if I want to go on living.”

By Deborah E. Dayen

Picture from Google Images.

Saturday Morning Computer Snafu

So, I came outside this morning, to gather my thoughts, get myself centered, by writing as usual, on my deck. It was early as usual, 6 am. I turned on the computer, and Windows had decided it was a good time to update. Said updates took an hour and a half.

How frustrating. It totally changed my mood, from feeling tentative about the day, with so much to do, to being a little pissed off. I was on WP, on my phone, but that’s hard. I hate trying to write anything much from my phone. I was on FB for awhile, and gratefully, my cousin saw me on there early, and called me, so she helped me pass about 40 minutes of the time talking.

It seems that ususally they ask you if you want to update now, or schedule it. But this time, no, it just started as soon as I opened the lap top. I guess the lesson is, to be reminded that I am in control of so little of what happens in my life, lol.

My son and I are going to go buy him a suitcase today. We have an extra carry-on bag, but not a large one. We’ve usually shared the one good large one we have. But now he will need his own, so we’re going to go to Sam’s Club and find one.

While we are together in the car, I think we’re going to call his father, and hopefully he will answer the phone. We will tell him together that we are moving. The family wedding next week is the impetus to tell him. I just don’t think it would be fair for him not to know, and get blind-sided by the news , from another family member.

He’s paying a dear price as it is, for his cruelty and abuse of us. We have recovered. We have both created wonderful lives, mostly filled with happiness. We have each other always. My poor foolish ex has no one, and although it’s his choice to be alone, I still know it would hurt him to find out from someone else that his son had moved to Colorado. I’m not sure if it would make any difference to him that I am moving to Florida. Sometimes I think that he still considers me his wife, even though we’ve been apart almost 10 years. He just has such a hard time letting go of things. His power and control issues couldn’t hold it together, and I know he is embarrassed by that, rightly or wrongly. I have no wish to add to that.

I just had a thought that maybe he would want the spare washer and dryer, and the couches in my son’s room. Where he would put them, I have no idea, but I think I’ll offer them. He does have a pick-up that he could come get them in. Although I’m sure he won’t want to come over here, to my house. I’m sure it would just anger him that I have such a nice home while he lives in an unheated cabin next door to his old house.

Sometimes it just makes me so sad to see what he’s done with his life.

When we get back from the shopping trip, I’ll be packing the rest of the weekend. I should have a really good handle on it by the end of the day tomorrow. I will hopefully be able to schedule someone to come and pick up the stuff that needs to go to the dump. I need to give my snow blower to my friend. A few other odds and ends. Gonna be a busy time from now until I leave for Denver.

It’s time to get this day underway,I can’t make up the time I lost to updates, lol.

Love and light everyone.

In My Defense

Since my computer decided that the second I turned it on this morning would be a good time for it to update, one of those lengthy slow multiple shutdown updates, I am on my phone. Grrrr. But found this on FB and thought it as good a way to start the day as any. Love and light, all. 

Questions (A Poem)

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Do you know, she asked
How big is the space within my heart?
Or do you just guess
That it’s the same as the space in yours?

He looked at her quizzically.

She laughed.
“You, who has spent no time
trying to open your heart.
You have no idea
How much love it can hold.”

You can’t know,
If all you do is protect
The small perceived space
That you think your heart holds.

She smiled.
“Come see me,
When you are sick
Of being afraid.”

Afraid to be loved.
Afraid to love.
Afraid to feel.
Afraid
Afraid
Afraid.

“I’ll still be here…..
Because
What you feel about me
Is none of my business.
But what I feel for you….
Makes me happy.”

He looked at her,
Questions galore in his beautiful eyes.
She smiled at him
Hiding nothing
Unashamed
Unafraid.

He turned,
He could not meet her gaze.
He walked away.
She watched him,
And turned her gaze to the sea.

At that moment,
He stopped,
And looked back.
Questioning…..

Counting Blessings, A Poem

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Feeling so blessed this morning.
I’ve had,
and focused way too much on,
So much heartache in my life.
But this morning,
all I feel is gratitude.

Everything that happens to us
Brings us to where we are.
LOOK where I am!

On the cusp of a dream,
Filled with good friends,
And family.
About to live close to the ocean,
In a place where I’ll never shovel snow again.

My son is strong, and smart
And creating his own good life.
I’m so proud of him.
So lucky to have such a close connection with him.
We will always have each other
Even if the miles separate us.

The lessons I’ve learned
Through the heartache and pain
Have brought me here
To a place I can be exceedingly happy
And be myself.

Everyone has been a teacher
I’m grateful for them all.
It’s been a hell of a journey
And the journey continues.

Blessed, just blessed.
Nothing else to say.

Fun Day

They had my retirement party at work today. It was nice, short, but recognition for 12 years there of dedicated work. They gave me the same mantle clock they gave my friend in January. But it’s a really nice clock, engraved. Very nautical looking.

The women I work with gave me a gift, and a gift card, which was so nice. And everyone signed a card. So many on the card said they enjoyed working with me, and would miss me. I felt like it was sincere. At the party I said, You know I like my job, I do. But it’s the people, all of you that I will miss. We are like family, we spend every day together. It’s really the people who keep you here for 12 years. Because you enjoy working with them.

Then shortly after I left work early, and went to Paint Nite at my friends, the friend who is driving to Florida with me. It was so much fun. Totally enjoyed it! We all ate, and had drinks, and then were taught how to paint a picture, which I was going to put on this page, but I can’t seem to get it to download tonight. That’s my rendition, lol. I’m satisfied with it. It’s not about having talent, it’s about being creative, and having fun. It was wonderful to hang out with my two bff’s, and have fun.

My son called me in the middle of painting. I answered the phone and said, “I can’t talk! I painting!” And he said, “I don’t care! I got a job!” He was offered a job with a major cell phone company in Denver, he starts Sept. 12. He’s so happy, so relieved, and I’m happy for him and relieved. He has a decent place to live, and a good job, and he’ll be fine. It will make it much easier to say goodbye when I leave Denver. So happy.

Don’t feel like going to work tomorrow, for sure. But I’ll go. One more week, and I’m done. Life seems to be moving forward, for both of us, in a good way. Not much to complain about tonight.

Love and light, all.

Except Here, A Poem.

There is no way to say
I love you
Except to say it
Here
Where you might see it.

There is no way to tell you
That the pain is gone
Only the good remains
Except to tell you
Here
Where you might see it.

I want to wish you well
And have no venue
For the words to connect
Except to put them
Here
Where you might see them.

There is no way
To make you understand
That I have no wish to disrupt you.
So I tell you
Here
So you might know.

There is no way to say
I miss you
But I do, every day.
So I’ll tell you
Here
So you might know.

And remember,
On days where no light is cast
Love always and all ways.

Flaming Sunrise, A Poem

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The sunrise flames reds this morning
Reminding us
Of the beautiful world we live in.

Even those things that have been hard
Really hard
Are easier when the world is painted
Red,and pink and blue and gray.

It reminds me
Of the vibrancy of being in love.
Of the peacefulness
Of knowing who I am.

New sunrises await
In a new place.
Equally as beautiful.
Memories will make me smile.

By Deborah E. Dayen

Picture taken by me, this morning, from my deck.

Poets for Peace Update, and Other Stuff

Poets for Peace has announced that the collaborative of poems will be published in Praxis Magazine Online. I’m so very excited about this! There is some wonderful poetry, some wonderful energy there. I added the Haiku I published last night, Spilling Love. You still have time to contribute if you like, until the end of August, just paste the entire poem into a comment on this site.

https://forgottenmeadows.wordpress.com/2016/07/16/calling-all-poetscreative-minds-to-a-grand-collaboration-poets-for-peace/comment-page-6/#comment-19666

To be part of the published collaborative, you will need to give permission, so include this when you post your poem or just as an additional comment. “One or all of these fields will need to be included: URL, Name, Location Contributor is writing from. “The standard Praxis copyright page at the beginning will show that copyright for contributed lines is retained by the individual contributors”.

So thrilled to be part of this.

I finished wrapping all my artwork in bubble-wrap last night. Now to pack it up. I think I’ll make good headway with the packing this weekend. Mostly what’s left is household goods, like sheets and towels, clothes, and the kitchen. So I can make a good start with those this weekend. My son is putting new brakes on his car Saturday.

I still have to call my insurance company about the house, and switch my son’s car to his name. That shouldn’t be a big deal. I hope. Nothing with DMV is ever easy though, lol.

Moving along. Today is the company retirement thing, and then Paint Nite tonight at my girlfriends. That will be fun!!

Have a good day everyone. Love and light.